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{September 25, 2009}  

i was watching this movie, hancock, sometime back, and something hit my mind and i thought that i should write about it. and now i am sitting in front on my computer and i have no idea what it was. between then, and now, i put the coffee mug in the kitchen sink, filled Cy’s glass with water (my little puppy :)), brushed my teeth, thought of washing my face and decided against it, and put in the mosquito mat. that’s how my brain has become aajkal. thoughts, things, names, are now there, and now they’re not. people i have awesome times with, and i meet them again after some days, and i can’t remember their names. i am beginning to feel this detachment. maybe even annoyed sometimes. most times, it’s just a wait, which i look forward to ending in 2010, whatever that might bring. or maybe it’ll bring nothing and i will just start looking forward to 2011. and then so many years will be gone … and then maybe it will all stop to matter, where i am, how i am, how i feel, how i .. not feel.

here’s something else i was thinking about posting sometime back; earlier in the day i think. that how some people (very few) think that maybe i have .. “walled” myself in. some kind of an emotional protection that does not allow me to .. to .. look for, or want a … “mate” .. for lack of a better word. that i am faking it, or maybe falsely feeling it, this contentment with myself, with no one (my size :)) actually there with me, in my life, day-in, day-out. what i feel is, that i know that i am not faking it. i mean if i feel good with just me in my life, then i feel good, and that’s just how it is. i honestly wouldn’t know how to explain it, make sense of it, or that even if i want to explain it. i do love to analyze, but of late i think i have misplaced that piece of my brain. i am zombieing around most of the time now. some mornings i feel great, and i thank the universe, and i sing songs, and smile at strangers, and some mornings i feel terrible, i think of pune (yes, i still do, sometimes), and i just wanna run back home (from on my way to work) and sink my head into the pillows and go back to sleep. and that’s just how it is, and i go through the day, however best i can .. that day.

hmmm … it was something very interesting, what i was thinking about when i was watching hancock, and now i just can’t remember what it was. all i remember was, that it was very interesting. :)

on an altogether different note, i had a very interesting dream last night. i, my mother, and Cy, are in lajpat nagar (the place where i was born and lived till i was 8), looking at this place/house that my mom is planning to buy, for about 20-22 lacs i think. it is the typical ‘double-storey’* house, just that this one has been re-modeled and is now looking pretty swank. it was all very vivid, and real.

* ‘double-storey’ is a style of housing in some parts of delhi that was developed to accommodate the thousands (or was it millions?) that crossed over from pakistan during the divide (independence). it’s a 25 gaj (i don’t how much a gaj is, it’s a measure of land) plot with two rooms, a kitchen and bathroom built within a narrow rectangular strip of space. there’s one above the other, hence ‘double-storey’. there’s two such rows, one above another. four columns each (one column containing 2 houses one above the other) on both sides of a staircase in the middle. four of these double-storey rows made a square, or what is called a block. we were in I block, though i am not sure now, my memory being the way it is. :) we were on the first floor, the house owned by my distant bua (aunt of dad’s side, my dad’s first cousin), who lived in the house right below with her family. they’d rented it out to us ..



{September 23, 2009}   objectivity

there is this one thing that can really help one tackle problems/troubles. that thing is objectivity. it might sound hard, being objective in a situation when one is all nerves, highly charged, or emotional, or maybe just crying and/or angry. but it’s not really, that hard. it’s rather easy, one just needs practice. the key is consciousness. consciousness is the key–awareness. one needs to make a conscious effort. take a deep, deep breath (i’ve heard kapalbharti, or kapalbhati, or kapalvati, really helps, but i’ve never practiced it myself, one can google it and/or get videos on youtube).

take deep, fulfilling breaths, and think .. placing yourself outside of the situation. good visualization helps here. in your mind (you can also use paper and illustrate it there) try and put your problem inside a circle. place all elements that are contributing to that troublesome set of events, yourself including in that circle. then, as a third person, watching from above, try and assess what’s going on. it’s great if that time you have someone to talk to, or talk with, about that situation. someone you trust and is caring, and who listens and not continuously keep pouring her/his own thoughts and opinions.

analyzing the situation helps a great deal. but it’s important that it is an unbiased analysis. if your problem involves another person, try and be in her/his shoes (not literally silly). think if their actions were reasonable, or logical. if not, then try and analyze why they might have acted the way they did. if after some deliberation, you are not able to reach a sane reason or logic, or you realize that s/he has been a first rate ***hole and treated you like shit, then give it up. tell yourself, that further thoughts on the matter (over which you know you do not have any control) will only harm you, your system. you could just call them, or meet them in public and shout at them and vent it out thus, maybe in front of their family and/or friends. make sure that you show anger and an F-off attitude, and that . anything less than that and you’re gonna feel miserable later thinking that you showed a weaker side to the world.



{September 14, 2009}   hahahahahaha….

now i know. the gas is all getting leaked from tiny holes like facebook and twitter .. :)

my FB status today:
love is … to know, and to realize, that my sadness will make her sad too … so, smile … :)

minekey (FB app):
if there’s a “complete package” application out there that ans all my needs, then i’m sure that there’s a guy too .



{September 06, 2009}   the sweetest thing … :)

blankly, i penned these lines in one of cyra’s notebooks:

How did we meet? How we met!

.. and after sometime there was something inscribed under these lines, in her sweet, pretty, child-like hand:

I love you mommy. (and there was a heart here)

We met like this.

I came out of your stomach …

:-)

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and i realize yet again. that that’s all one needs in life. someone … someone to … not have sex with … or someone not to depend on .. or someone not to … go out with even ..

but someone … someone .. who touches you … :)

every waking moment of your miserable life … making you love it .. your life

** sigh ** :)

i am thankful .. :) .. and grateful ..

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on a completely different note, maybe that’s why many marriages don’t work out .. or are strained. cos mothers might be getting complete “satisfaction” from where fathers do not get any … hmmm …




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